What Do Women Really Want?

I can only speak for myself.

I want peace in my life.

My children are my life. But they bring me constant stress.

My baby, Astrid, stresses me the most. She is a very outgoing and friendly girl.

Butter blonde hair and bright blue eyes. Always wanting to help.

I am having a difficult time teaching her about “stranger danger.”

I don’t want to stifle her innate compassion, but I do have to teach her to be safe.

Should I destroy her trust in others? It’s upsetting.

My older girls are in grade school. They have their own issues.

So, at the end of the day, it’s really just looking out for my children than anything else that stresses me.

I found a few ways to keep my peace going strong.

One is massage for women.

I think it’s mostly men that get massages. That has to change.

There are so many benefits for women, but I think it’s just the history of how our culture views massage that keeps most women away.

My first massage was a I had with my husband in the Bahamas.

Before that, I had never had a backrub.

I found the experience like no other. The only other thing that brings me so much peace is my medical herb.

That was over eleven years ago. Since that time, I’ve had tons of massage therapy sessions.

Mostly, I’ve had them at the day spa, but in the last year, I discovered in-home massage.

I like that way better. I always found the hygiene issue to be something I felt strongly about. So, being in my own home works best for me.

I get my older two girls to babysit the little one in the playroom. Meanwhile, I drift off into bliss.

I don’t care if my therapist is a man or woman. What does it matter? But they do have to be able to use tons of pressure.

My shoulders get way too tight. I had a therapist last month named Mara. She was like 4 foot eleven inches or so. Skinny.

I didn’t think she’d cut it, but man was I wrong! She had muscles hiding somewhere!

It was the best session I’ve had in a while. I always assumed guys were stronger, but that’s just a myth.

Men are not as good at giving massages. There’s the creepy guys. Count them out. Then, there are the guys who are just the opposite, afraid to touch you because you’re a woman. The sexism thing is just too big a deal, one way or the other.

Even so, I’ve had great massages from guys. And nowadays, girls can get creepy, too. I think of it as a medical thing, so there’s no place for anything but a clinical eye.

My advice? If you find a good LMT, get their name. Make sure you re-book with that same person. You may have an amazing first massage and then your second time is a waste. You wonder what happened. It was the therapist. Some really suck at this. Others are amazing. Like anything in life.

With massage, there’s just no faking it, though. It’s such a basic and simple thing, you either do it well or you don’t.

The only thing with women i hate is that they tend to be chatty. I don’t want to talk. I just want to be still!

So, there’s no perfect therapist based on gender. And individuals defy stereotypes. The biggest chatterbox I’ve encountered was actually a man. I had to tell him to stop talking. I said, “dude, you’re souring my buzz!” He shut right up. Was I wrong? Nah. I paid for the session, after all.

The one red flag I want to warn you about are therapists who use their phones. If you have this happen, demand a refund from management. There’s just no reason to be browsing the latest on Twitter while giving a massage. Give me a break!